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Every picture tells a story….

Every picture tells a story or so the saying goes…. wonder what the story of the establishment that that sign belongs to is….. I’ll leave that your imagination for now.

Normal blog service will resume next week

Meditation- an acrostic poem

Making time to consciously slow life down

Easier said than done

Discipline required to create the space

Internal switch to the real world disengaged

Taking time to be still, eyes closed

Attention on the breath- in and out

Trusting the process – going with the flow

Images flashing through the mind’s eye

Only a few minutes makes a huge difference

Now open your eyes to the world around you

(Image sourced via Google- credits to the owner)

What Do You Want To Do When You Grow Up?…Well, it sure as Hell wasn’t this!

A bit of a flippant title but hopefully it grabbed your attention.

What do you want to do when you grow up? Or have you fallen into the trap and grown up?

I’m of an age that I am now in twilight of my “corporate” career and the question “what do I want to do when I grow up?” has crept up more and more often of late.

I’ve half-joked for years that I joined the organisation that I’ve worked for all my adult life to make up my mind what I wanted to do when I grew up and decided that I really didn’t want to actually grow up. There’s more than a grain of truth lingering there.

Growing older is unavoidable and to be embraced as too many people don’t get the chance to grow old. As the years have passed, I have done all the usual adult things- I took out a mortgage and bought an apartment with my then boyfriend and when we got married we upgraded to a house, then another house and another, I had children, I became a widow at 53…. all decidedly adult facts of life but at heart, I still haven’t grown up.

My inner child is still very much alive!

Like most children when I was a little girl, I couldn’t wait to grow up. I dreamed of being an author, of being a doctor or a forensic pathologist. I dreamed about meeting rock stars. I dreamed about living in New York and about owning a beach house (that dream is still very much alive but will require a significant lottery win to make it happen.) All the usual things that kids dream about. What were your childhood dreams? Have any of them materialised?

Let’s face it- adulting isn’t much fun at times. We all need something to dream about. Being a responsible adult, especially if you are a parent, is hard bloody work! I’ve done more than my fair share of adulting over the years but I still don’t view myself as a grown up.

I passionately believe that it is all a state of mind. Being a woman in her mid-50’s doesn’t automatically mean that I want to fall into the trap of the “twin set and pearls” look with the highlighted hairstyle to hide the emerging grey. Maybe it’s a Gen X thing but I still wear my hair long in the same style that I have since high school complete with increasing grey strands of glitter. I spend most of my life dressed in rock band tees and jeans along with my trademark Converse. (Everyone who knows me knows of my love of and addiction to Converse. Please don’t ask how many pairs I own.) I’ll happily wander around barefoot in shorts and vest tee all summer long. I love listening to music especially hard rock and heavy metal and yes, I have several tattoos.

Back to those childhood dreams for a moment. It took 44 years but I did finally become a self-published author. I’ve also been fortunate enough to meet several of my music icons on more than one occasion. True, I never got the college/university degree to become a doctor or a forensic pathologist but I have continued to explore and learn alternative, natural healing techniques.

So, to return to the original question, what do YOU want to do when you grow up?

I don’t want to grow up!. I have no intentions of growing up! It’s bad for your mental wellbeing.

I’ll continue to chase those dreams in my jeans and tees while listening to loud rock music and strive for something more important that being a grown up. I’m on a mission to live “happily ever after.”

Anyone care to join me on my mission?

(Image sourced via Google- credit to the owner)

Beltane is fast approaching….are you fired up?

I saw the above picture on Facebook last weekend and it struck a chord.

Change is afoot in my world and I’ve spent the last few days contemplating it. That picture filled me full of a renewed sense of hope.

“So, what’s Beltane got to do with it?”

“What’s Beltane?”

Beltane is a pagan/Gaelic celebration that marks the midpoint between the spring equinox and the summer solstice. This year that’s 1st May. As a festival it was gradually dying out by the middle of the 20th century but since the late 1980’s it has seen a rekindling. (See what I did there? Hee hee)

Beltane is a fire festival.

According to Irish mythology, Beltane marked the beginning of summer when farmers would lead their cows out to the summer pastures. To celebrate this, ritual bonfires were lit and the local people would walk round or in between the fires with their cattle. These fires were believed to have protective powers. At this time too, every household’s fire was doused and relit with embers from the Beltane fires. It was a time for feasting and celebration.

Beltane is a celebration steeped in the shedding of darkness (winter) and the welcoming back of the light (summer).

It’s a time of change. A time of transition and this year for me personally, its significance isn’t lost on me. (More on that another time.)

If you feel stirrings of passion for something or a need for new beginnings this week, trust your gut instincts and let the Beltane fires energise your soul.

That new project that you were thinking about…start it!

The book you plan to write…start it!

The new whatever it was you have been dreaming about…start it!

I have!

(picture sourced via Facebook – credits to the owner)

50000 views!! Thank you!

I can’t believe that my blog has hit this milestone! WOW!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to each and every one of you who have spared some of your precious time to read my posts. I really do appreciate it.

love n hugs

Coral

Spreading your wings….all in good time

I’ve been pondering this week’s blog post topic for a few days and largely drawing a blank to be honest.

It’s felt as if something has been guiding me to pause and reflect.

Maybe the transition from the Chinese Year of the Snake to 2026’s Year of the Fire Horse has had a hand in this pause…who knows…

So, now that I’ve paused, I’m taking a moment to look back. I prefer to look forwards. I’m not a fan of looking back on certain emotional levels. The past is in the past and can’t be changed. However, that said, lessons learned from the past can help to shape the future.

I was reminded recently of an angel card/ oracle card reading that I had over fifteen years ago. It’s no secret to those who know me that I love oracle cards and have several…many…different decks. (I’m more cautious and wary around Tarot cards but that’s a whole different story.)

The card that I was reminded of is the one pictured above. It’s from a Doreen Virtue deck and shows an Earth Angel with her wings folded behind her, holding a crystal ball filled with butterflies in her hands. I love butterflies! At the time I was that told that I had skills/talents to share but that I wasn’t ready to spread my wings. Back then, it didn’t make much sense but looking back now, it makes perfect sense.

That reading was in 2010 if memory serves me correctly, three years before I decided to embark on my creative journey. It was eight years before I embarked on another journey that I rarely mention on here- my Reiki journey. (During that angel card reading, the medium/fortune teller had been adamant that I was a healer.)

So much has changed in my life since that card reading all those years ago… so much.

I don’t intend to go into it all here, largely because most of it is too personal to share in such a public space.

I will share this though…

If you’d told the “me” who was offered that card that I’d write and self-publish seven novels plus a poetry collection and have an eighth novel in the works, she would have thought you were insane.

If you’d told the “me” who was offered that card that I’d write a weekly blog, every week for over eleven years and counting plus an ad hoc music blog, she would have thought you were insane.

If you’d told the “me” who was offered that card that I would be qualified as a Reiki Master Teacher (although technically I can’t call myself a teacher until I have actually taught a Reiki student) I would have thought you were insane.

If you’d told the “me” who was offered that card that I would confidently travel solo and go to concerts on my own, I would have thought you were insane.

None of these things felt achievable back then. They were the stuff of dreams. They were things that confident, capable people achieved and felt completely beyond the reach of shy, introverted wee me.

Now that I have paused to reflect, perhaps that “Earth Angel” has quietly spread her wings. Maybe now, in these early days of the Year of the Fire Horse, it is time to spread them further and fly.

Time will tell…

Paused (poem)

As the sun began to sink low in the sky

I looked back along the trail and…

Paused….

Marvelling at how far I had come.

In the distance I could see

The difficult days when I faltered

The marshlands where I got bogged down

And the ocean that reset my soul

With a deep sigh, I prepared to go on

I looked ahead along the trail and…

Paused…

The sun’s light was blinding me

Concealing the distance left to travel.

Dark Place (100 word flash fiction)

As dusk fell the snow fell silently, the wind blowing it into deep drifts. Wearily, the wolf made his way up the trail, walking on instinct alone, trusting the familiarity of the path hidden beneath the thick blanket of snow.

Up ahead he could just see the outcrop of black rock against the darkening sky. Sanctuary lay underneath it- his den for the long winter to come.

An eternity later he saw the mouth of the cave a few metres above him.

Darkness wrapped itself around him like a blanket as he settled down on the earth floor to rest.

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Happy 12th Blogiversary to me!

I’ve sat down several times of late to write this 12th anniversary blog but the words wouldn’t flow….and I guess that’s been the story of 2025.

I started the year with the genuine intention of finishing and publishing Book Baby 9 but it hasn’t happened. There was a period in early summer when I was beating myself up about this. I’m an author! I should be able to write!

A wellbeing presentation at work brought me up short. It stopped me in my tracks on a few levels but it made me recognise that I was perhaps still pushing myself too hard and that the “word drought” was my brain’s way of saying it needed a bit more time to heal. So, I listened to it and stopped berating myself for not having my Book Baby finished. I abandoned the potential publication date that I had in mind.

Instead, I focused on falling in love with writing all over again. I explored other avenues. I’ve continued to blog weekly and to journal extensively. I’ve taken part in online poetry challenges and an online winter writing sanctuary with the lovely Beth Kempton. I’ve also completed a Journal Therapy Coach diploma and more recently have been furthering my Reiki studies. I’ve not been idle.

Taking the pressure of a deadline date away lifted an enormous pressure that I had put on myself.

So, where am I now with Book Baby 9? Well, my first draft is almost complete (at last!). Timeline-wise there are about two weeks of the story left to weave. It has a title but I’m keeping that under wraps for now. I might have found the cover image but I’m not 100% sure on that yet so again I’m keeping that under wraps. A week before Christmas I did give the world its first glimpse of the content in my weekly blog post. Missed it? Here’s the link-

A little insight into things to come…. | Coral McCallum

So, the cat’s out of the bag. Book Baby 9 sees us back following Riley’s tale. When I finished Riley back in 2022, I had thought that that was it but she had more to say. She really is my favourite little green-haired girl.

Riley has also had the honour of becoming my first audio book release. Audio books are unknown territory for me but I’m testing the water to see what happens. If there’s any interest in it then I will consider adding my other book babies. Time will tell…

Now, here we are on the cusp of a new year. I wonder what 2026 will bring.

If you have stuck with me over the past 12 years of this creative journey, thank you. If you’ve only just found this blog, I’d like to extend a warm welcome to you. You’ve a lot of catching up to do!

Creatively, I’m only setting one goal for 2026 and that is to finally publish Book Baby 9 (Yes, I know I said that last year.) There will no doubt be more blogs from The Measly Jar of Motivation, some more instalments of Silently Watching and more poetry. We’ll see what words flow from my pen.

Whatever goals or challenges you are setting yourself for the coming year, I wish you good luck with them. Have a wonderful 2026 and I truly hope that it is kind to us all.

Love and Hugs

Coral xxx

Several Pairs of Feet and a Lot of Brown Hens….

Over thirty-five years ago I read a book by Barbara Erskine called Lady of Hay. I still have that copy of it. That book sparked a lifelong interest in regression and past lives.

Is this really our first life? Is it our only life? What about all those déjà vu moments? Were there other lives?

At the time, in the late 1980’s, I remember telling my mum that I would love to be regressed but that was pre-internet, and it was difficult to track down a therapist via the Yellow Pages. Plus, would I really trust a total stranger to do that kind of therapy with me even if I did fine one?

The thought floated through many times over the years, but I never acted on it until now.

If you are a total cynic about past lives, re-incarnation and the like, you might want to stop reading here and come back next week.

Still with me?….

A couple of weeks ago while I was scrolling through Facebook, I spotted a post from a friend celebrating her success with two recent training courses. There was a lovely smiling photo of her with her two certificates. Two words on once of the certificates caught my eye. I zoomed in – past lives.

Ok so now you see where this is going….

After a quick telephone chat with the lovely lady herself, I made an appointment for a past lives’ hypnotherapy session.

If you Google past life regression therapy or past lives’ hypnotherapy you get an AI overview that explains “it’s a hypnotherapy technique that guides a person to access supposed memories of past lives to resolve current issues.”

I wasn’t going into this with the naïve expectation of learning that I’d been a princess living a fairy tale life or been a famous author or anything overly specific. Ok I might have been curious to learn if I’d been tried and hanged as a witch. (None of my close friends would have been surprised if that was the case!)

I didn’t go into the session itself with any expectations. I went in with an open mind.

What followed was the most amazing and surprisingly relaxing ninety minutes or so.

It would be unfair of me to go into too many specifics of the session here. (It might also make for a boring read if I relived it chapter and verse here and now.) Instead, I’ll cover the salient points that I feel comfortable to share.

I’ve never experienced any form of hypnosis before and that was perhaps the part I was a little anxious about. I needn’t have worried. That part was incredibly pretty and relaxing and led to me visualising a dark night sky (although my night sky was a colour I refer to as Reiki purple.) criss-crossed with a web of silver silky cords.

In my mind’s eye, with the therapist’s gentle encouragement, I chose one to follow and picked it up. Over the course of the session, I was encouraged at points to let go of the cord and “drop into” that life, starting each time by looking at my feet.

I saw several pairs of feet. The first pair were crammed into shoes that were too tight. I could actually feel my feet being squashed even though in my current life they were encased in a comfortable pair of Converse. Next were bare feet belonging to a girl of about twelve or thirteen. Men’s brown leather lace up shoes followed then it was back to bare feet. These bare feet belonged to a little boy about eight years old and they were filthy! Emerald green silk shoes followed on, and the final pair of feet were in well-worn black leather shoes.

Each time I got a sense of the lifetime that those feet led rather than feeling that I was in that lifetime. In the brown leather lace up shoes’ life, I was in a printshop with a huge old-fashioned printing press surrounded by piles of paper. I could smell the ink.

The lifetime with the emerald green silk shoes was the one that made me feel uncomfortable. That woman had led a life dominated by a controlling husband and was sad and lonely.

The final pair of feet in the comfortable black leather shoes provided the most vivid images of the session. I was asked to describe what I could see at one point. My reply almost made the therapist giggle. “Chickens. Brown hens everywhere. I like the eggs, but the hens are a nuisance!”

In future blogs or short stories, I may reveal more details of the lives each of those pairs of feet led but for now it feels right to keep most of that private.

The session did give me an insight into where one fear I have may have come from. I don’t like the dark. I get quite scared if I have to walk into a dark room or an unlit hallway. I’m fine outdoors in the dark. It’s indoors darkness that scares me and I’ve never known why.  The little boy with the dirty bare feet shared the same fear.

Several of the pairs of feet lived in coastal areas so perhaps that explains my love of being near water and needing to see an expanse of water on a regular basis. I could never live inland.

The therapist had assured me before we said goodbye that I wouldn’t take any of these past lives with me when I left. The past stays in the past. But, as I drove home, I couldn’t shake the image of the cottage with all of those brown hens in front of it.

When I went to my refrigerator to get something out to cook for dinner, I went to pick up the packet of chicken breasts and paused… It ended up being pasta for dinner. I just couldn’t face potentially cooking one of those pesky brown hens!

If any local friends want to experience their own past lives’ hypnotherapy session please reach out to

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